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My brother and his fiance got engaged which I was so happy for them. I found out that I was pregnant with our first child a few months ago, I was asked a few weeks earlier to be a bridesmaid. I have declined the offer now as I know that I will be very pregnant for their wedding. They have now told my family that they are going to have a big Las Vegas wedding ( which SHE wants). My brother would have been happy getting married on the beach here in British Columbia where it is just absolutely beautiful. I definitely respect the fact that she wants to have a big wedding with the white dress and all of that. The fact is though, my brother is not rich and neither is my family. She has a very low paying job which I know a lot of the expenses will fall on my poor brother who is already is a lot of debt from school. They are requesting everyone to fly down there and pay for their own expenses, no problem. My husband and I just don’t have the money to go so we will miss the wedding, also i will be over 7 months pregnant at the time and would really prefer not to fly out of the country. He is my only brother and I am so upset that I will not get to see him get married. My family is struggling to be able to pay their ways down there, and it is looking like they may not be able to go either. I kind of thought they may reconsider the Vegas wedding as none of us can go, but she is adminant on having it there. My brother has recently told us that he doesn’t care if we can make it or not, he wants to give her the huge, expensive wedding she has always dreamed of ( and can’t pay for). What are some of your thoughts on this? I respect the fact that it is their wedding and they can have it wherever they please, but since most of out family can’t go, wouldn’t you try to figure out another alternative? I am so sad!
Thank you everyone for your advice, it has really helped me become less stressed today. VERY Much appreciated!
Las Vegas formal wedding attire
My brother and his fiance got engaged which I was so happy for them. I found out that I was pregnant with our first child a few months ago, I was asked a few weeks earlier to be a bridesmaid. I have declined the offer now as I know that I will be very pregnant for their wedding. They have now told my family that they are going to have a big Las Vegas wedding ( which SHE wants). My brother would have been happy getting married on the beach here in British Columbia where it is just absolutely beautiful. I definitely respect the fact that she wants to have a big wedding with the white dress and all of that. The fact is though, my brother is not rich and neither is my family. She has a very low paying job which I know a lot of the expenses will fall on my poor brother who is already is a lot of debt from school. They are requesting everyone to fly down there and pay for their own expenses, no problem. My husband and I just don’t have the money to go so we will miss the wedding, also i will be over 7 months pregnant at the time and would really prefer not to fly out of the country. He is my only brother and I am so upset that I will not get to see him get married. My family is struggling to be able to pay their ways down there, and it is looking like they may not be able to go either. I kind of thought they may reconsider the Vegas wedding as none of us can go, but she is adminant on having it there. My brother has recently told us that he doesn’t care if we can make it or not, he wants to give her the huge, expensive wedding she has always dreamed of ( and can’t pay for). What are some of your thoughts on this? I respect the fact that it is their wedding and they can have it wherever they please, but since most of out family can’t go, wouldn’t you try to figure out another alternative? I am so sad!
Thank you everyone for your advice, it has really helped me become less stressed today. VERY Much appreciated!
Las Vegas formal wedding attire
